Have you ever been in a relationship that is not great for your physical, emotional and/or psychological wellbeing, yet for complex reasons you can't seem to leave?
Personally my first such relationship was with my devout Jehovah's Witness family and subsequently the church of Jehovah's Witnesses by extension. Obviously it's not hard to know why that was a difficult situation to leave, and most of the time I thought I was the one with the problem.
Then there was the one romantic relationship as well that really hindered my personal growth, but I stayed well past the due date, having been convinced it was me with all the issues.
I don't believe these people and groups set out to be toxic to me personally, but given the set of circumstances they turned out to be and it's like that frog in boiling water analogy.
You often don't realise you're in a toxic environment until it's too late and the damage has been done. You've become so used to the toxins, you're now a chemical shit storm and the escape route is no where in sight.
This is when desperation sets in, creating more stress, limiting your decision making capacity and keeping you stuck in the muck.
When people go on a diet for the first time there is usually a lot of hope but by the time they are on their tenth year of setting a new years weight loss resolution, their relationship with food is a mess, their trust in their own body is non existent, they are further away from their goals probably being the largest they've been and guess what....
.... they blame themselves!
Despite they try countless diets, stick to them really well, all the weight comes back on and instead of blaming the diets (that are clearly failing) they believe it's their fault.
That is the definition of TOXIC!
Here are some other way's diets are like a toxic relationship:
1. Diets are about restriction, which means stopping yourself from having the things you want — like a controlling partner
2. Diets don't take into account that you have thoughts and feelings about food — like an elusive partner that avoids communication with you
3. Diets fail to account for your biological needs by omitting whole food groups, making you think you have a willpower issue — kind of like a narcissist partner gaslighting you
4. Diet culture ignores the decades of scientific literature which is conclusive in stating diets make you put on weight, not lose it — this is mass brainwashing to profit off you
If you find yourself repeatedly trying to stick to a diet and failing, it could be time to realise that IT'S NOT YOU, IT'S THE DIET!!
Like any toxic relationship, things keep breaking down but you hang on because it's all you know and you believe that it's your fault... if you just try harder and be better?!
The next one will work, right?
The good news is that the best thing you can do is break up with diets and diet culture for good.
Scary as it might seem at first, this is the fast track way to reach your weight or health goals and I have been successfully using eating psychology and intuitive eating methods with my clients to achieve lasting results.
x Miriam ᴄᴇʀᴛɪғɪᴇᴅ ᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ ᴘsʏᴄʜᴏʟᴏɢʏ ᴄᴏᴀᴄʜɪɴɢ Fᴏᴏᴅɪᴇ & Yᴏɢɪ
p.s. don't be afraid of the unknown, on the other side of exploring your food and body image issues lies freedom, book in a free consultation to find out how