What does self care look like and what's the point anyway?
When we're obsessed with food and our body size we forget about something really important. That we are a human being with tender emotions and feelings.
Think about cars for a moment.... regardless of whether you own a Kia or Audi both will get you from A-B. Same basic structure, four wheels etc. Both will drive better if they're well maintained. And the ride will much more pleasurable if the car is sparkly clean (or so methinks being a clean freak).
Our bodies are the same. We all have similar parts, and no, we can't choose what model we're served, but we can choose how often we get serviced (innuendos aside).
Cars don't run on fuel. They run on fuel, oil, air, water, lots of moving parts and a conscious driver.
By focusing on simply how much the body weighs or where certain body parts protrude too much and others not enough, we're missing the point of having a body. The body is a house for us to live in, a vehicle for the journey of life. It requires air to breathe, food to be nourished by, love to enjoy, movement to stay mobile, knowledge to gain wisdom. It's what we use to get from A-B. Arrival to Bye Bye (just made that up). It's our vehicle, we have to look after it.
We can never be fully in the drivers seat of our lives if we are focusing all our attention on the superficial aspects of life. We need to look under the hood.
Whole Self Care
So if you're at the stage where you are obsessed about how you look in a bikini or what you ate for breakfast and what you'll eat for lunch then here's how to start making a transition to honouring the whole you (not just the small you).
1. Incorporate a new beauty care ritual into your life
2. Take up a hobby just for pure unadulterated pleasure
3. Find movement that you love
4. Create some time for stillness
5. Ask for what you want
Self care rituals take into account the whole sacred-self
By incorporating self care practices into every day life, we start to draw the focus away from the shallow, how we look on the outside, and more towards how we're feeling on the inside. As we care for the inner parts, the journey naturally becomes smoother... those pesky troubles we had with our body and food start to naturally drop into the background.
Finally we start to shine from within, and realise that is the beauty we have always been seeking anyway.